May 22nd, 2009

Poly, Labels

Writer's Block: There Can Be Only One

Do you believe in monogamy?
"Believe" in monogamy?  Like some people believe in fairies, Jesus, or Santa?

I believe monogamy works for some people, but it's never worked for me.  For a lot of years I felt really guilty about that, even when I was monogamous -- I'd still fall for other people, and even if I didn't act on it, I'd feel like I was "emotionally cheating."  I was so, so happy to discover there was an open, ethical way to go about having consensual non-monogamous relationships, and while I've certainly not worked out all the bugs yet, I'm much happier and have much less self-hatred than when I tried to force myself into a mold.