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If it Ain’t About Love...

*grin* This makes me think about ona_tangent...


If it Ain’t About Love
by: Goddess of Java

Peeve time, and this is a big one.

I get sucked into drama really easily. I’m an intense person and all the gods know that I am a sucker for almost any type of intensity - good and bad.

A personal Poly Drama got me talking to one of my spice recently. As we were talking, he sighed and said, “I don’t really consider myself poly.”

At this point, I looked at him like he had three heads. I mean, he lives in a group marriage, for goodness sake!

“I don’t get it. You’re in love with two women. I know you are,” I said. After all, one of those women was me and I know he’s in love with our wife.

He shrugged. “Yes, I am. But I’m not poly. Polyamory isn’t about love that I’ve been able to see. It’s all about playacting and drama.”



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donnalee_kiss
Apr. 27th, 2008 10:39 am (UTC)
Then why be with two women if you don't love both of them? He's just being greedy??
bzero
Apr. 27th, 2008 06:00 pm (UTC)
Then why be with two women if you don't love both of them?
If you read the entire article, it's obvious that he does love both of them -- it's just that the concept and identity of 'polyamory' sometimes gets bogged down and lost amongst the drama and politics.

It's one reason why some people like ona_tangent and others have no problem loving more than one person, but don't like the identity of 'poly' and all of its baggage and associations.
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bzero
May. 2nd, 2008 01:20 am (UTC)
Re: Then why be with two women...?
*whew* I wasn't hoping I hadn't mis-categorized your take things. B^)
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bzero
May. 2nd, 2008 01:41 am (UTC)
Re: Then why be with two women...?
w00t! Yay being the positive exception!

Ah, constructed sexual identities. Wacky fun!
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bzero
May. 2nd, 2008 01:48 am (UTC)
Re: Then why be with two women...?
Oh, no! Knitter drama! Too much for me! *grin*
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bzero
May. 2nd, 2008 01:56 am (UTC)
Re: Then why be with two women...?
LOL. I see the way. Non-knitting is boring, and non-knitters are backward and close-minded. Show me the way! By definition, what works best for you works best for everyone!
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bzero
May. 2nd, 2008 06:11 pm (UTC)
Re: Then why be with two women...?
A swift blow to the head will do that for you! B^)
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